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Talking to Your Spouse About Divorce Mediation

New Jersey Couples Seeking Mediation

While you and your spouse may agree that a divorce should occur, you both may not agree on divorce mediation. Now you are envisioning all the finances needed to hire a lawyer, all the litigation fees, and other possible legal fees you both will have to pay for in order to finalize the divorce. This does not mean that divorce mediation is completely off the table as a viable option. There are a few things you can do to help possibly convince your spouse to consider mediation.

Asking your spouse why he or she won’t consider mediation is usually a good way to start. The communication between you and your spouse has probably suffered, but getting an understanding on the reasons why he or she is hesitant in going forward with mediation can help you or a mediator address those concerns. Sometimes just having your spouse try it by “going once” either during a free consultation or by speaking to the mediator over the phone first can help alleviate any concerns he or she may have been focusing on.

At the Law Offices of Jef Henninger, Esq., we provide a free initial consultation with one of our highly skilled New Jersey divorce mediators that both you and your spouse can discuss concerns with. Our law firm represents clients throughout the state of New Jersey and are available anytime, even on nights and weekends. Just call our 24/7 hotline to schedule your free initial consultation with our Red Bank divorce mediators at 732-383-6242.

Notifying Your Children of Your NJ Divorce

Compassionate NJ Divorce Mediators

One of the hardest things that a divorcing couple may face is how to inform their children of their separation. What you say to your child could have a major impact on how they view their family and they most likely have a feeling that something is amiss. To help reduce any stress the children may be feeling and to help them feel that there is still a sense of continuity during the separation, it is best to speak to your children once a parenting schedule and overall plan has been established. Some things that the divorcing parents should keep in mind when speaking to their children about the separation are to speak about it together with the child, keep everything age appropriate, and address any emotions the child may express. With some of these main guidelines, even though the topic at hand may be still difficult to discuss, you can help lessen or prevent any unneeded stress toward your children.

When the divorcing couples are going through a divorce mediation rather than a traditional divorce, the psychological impact it has on the children is proven through research to be less. At the Law Offices of Jef Henninger, Esq., our experienced, compassionate New Jersey divorce mediators will help you and your spouse reach a reasonable agreement, and help you fight for what is best for your child. Contact us anytime, even on nights and weekends, to speak with one of our Monmouth County divorce mediators with our free initial consultation at 732-383-6242.

The New Jersey Divorce Mediation Process

Professional New Jersey Divorce Mediators

Just like how each divorce is unique, the divorce mediation doesn’t always follow the same steps. However, there is a general process that most mediation sessions follow. Most mediators will speak with you in a phone call to gather as much background information about you, your spouse, your family, the issues present and any other information the mediator finds imperative. The mediator must make sure that you are a good candidate for mediation. Then a face-to-face meeting will occur where the mediator you have hired will explain what is to happen next. Usually at this time, confidentiality agreements are signed and the mediator takes time to get to know you and your spouse. Once this has all been established, each side will be able to make a small statement about the situation you both are dealing with. The mediator may ask questions to both of you and also repeat what was said to make sure everyone is on the same page. The mediator will then probably start working on walking the two of you towards an agreement. If any additional information is needed, like bank statements, assessments of the value of the house, or whatever the case may be, you will be asked to bring it during the next mediation session. The next few sessions will then be the mediator trying to help the two of you reach approved settlements. Once all the issues have been settled, usually with both sides giving and taking a little, an agreement will be written which will be included with your divorce paperwork.

If you are considering divorce mediation, have an experienced mediator is essential. At the Law Offices of Jef Henninger, Esq., we have not only experienced divorce attorneys, but top-notch Red Bank divorce mediators with experience with clients throughout New Jersey. Schedule a free initial consultation with one of our experienced divorce mediators any time, even on nights and weekends, by calling 732-383-6242.