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Negotiating Your Own New Jersey Divorce

Professional New Jersey Dispute Resolution Lawyers

Even though divorce mediation seems like a simple task that can be handled between you and your spouse, especially if you are both agreeable and understanding of one another, one should still not negotiate their own divorce. Why? Just like with any other legal situation, having a professional New Jersey dispute resolution attorney will protect both parties while going forward with their mediation. An example of how handling your own divorce mediation is not the best idea, is how there is a lack of a third party. This allows one party to claim “dominance” and literally control the entire negotiation process, making it unfair to the other party. The dominant spouse could control a majority of the information and use it in his or her favor. This can lead to arguments between both parties, which allows emotions to run high and more than likely hinder any possible future negotiations.

Furthermore, no matter how much information you review on the Internet, you cannot possibly replace the experience of a New Jersey divorce lawyer or divorce mediator. You have to realize that you don’t know what you are doing even if your case is “easy”. Our lawyers have seen too many people use a divorce mill or forms of the Internet to get a cheap divorce only to have that blow up in their face down the road. These messes can be costly to clean up. Remember, its always easier (and cheaper) to avoid a mess than it is to clean it up.

Having an experienced New Jersey divorce mediator handle the negotiations helps keep the focus on the bigger issues and helps protect both parties. This helps neither party become dominant in the negotiations and allows both parties to say their piece and express their concerns and needs. The Law Offices of Jef Henninger, Esq., has multiple offices throughout New Jersey and has highly skilled and compassionate divorce mediators to help in your dispute resolution matters. If you are looking to divorce through mediation, call our law firm anytime, even on nights and weekends, for a free initial consultation with an Elizabeth dispute resolution attorney at 732-383-6242.

The Affects of Divorce on Children

Experienced New Jersey Divorce Attorneys

Facing a divorce with children involved can become a highly emotional situation. If you and your spouse are seeking a traditional divorce, and your children are witnessing the two of you fighting or talking badly about one another over the phone with your lawyer, your children are going to be bewildered, confused and scared. For the sake of your children, if possible, it is best to try and keep the details of your divorce hidden and try to keep in good terms with your ex-spouse. If this can be accomplished, instead of a drawn-out, stressful traditional divorce, divorce mediation may be a better option. Research has shown that if both parents of the child keep the children outside of their conflict and stay on good terms with one another that the children will fare the best. Because of this finding, some states actually require divorcing couples to speak with a divorce mediator in hopes of preventing the divorce to turn into a war.

At the Law Offices of Jef Henninger, Esq., our experienced, seasoned New Jersey divorce mediators understand the difficulty of going through a divorce and will work with you and your spouse to reach an agreement while keeping the best interests of your children in mind. Our law firm has been in courts throughout the state of New Jersey and has decades of experience in family law. Schedule a free initial consultation with one of our highly skilled Union County divorce mediators today by calling our 24/7 hotline at 732-383-6242.